I’m three years late to the party, but on a long road trip to Baltimore this weekend, Dan (my husband) and I listened to Tina Fey’s Bossypants audiobook. It was my first audiobook experience, and I thoroughly enjoyed spending six hours with Tina (especially because Dan was there with me) as she spoke about the challenges facing a professional woman in today’s society. At times, I imagined that it was me reading my own stories out loud (Tina, I just love squirrels that eat food with their hands! I also have no idea how to decide when to have kids and when to focus on my career! I’ve been asked that exact same question while stuffing my face with cake!). Other times, I just listened and soaked in what Tina Fey taught me.
“Do your thing and don’t care if they like it.”
Tina shared a story about how she casually joked in an informal dinner with a reporter friend that she would “leave Earth” if John McCain and Sarah Palin were elected to the White House. It was interpreted seriously and blown out of proportion by the media, but Tina didn’t leave it out of her autobiography – she owned it. Maybe she shouldn’t have said it out loud, maybe she shouldn’t have trusted her friend, but really: she did her thing, regardless of what anyone else thought. It made me think instantly about times when I “humble bragged” on Facebook and some acquaintances rolled their eyes, or times when I tweeted something that was perceived as too emotional for my professional persona. Maybe these behaviors were interpreted in a negative way, but that’s me: sometimes too proud, and sometimes too vulnerable for my own good. I am owning it.
“This is what I tell young women who ask me for career advice. People are going to try to trick you. To make you feel that you are in competition with one another. “You’re up for a promotion. If they go for a woman, it’ll be between you and Barbara.” Don’t be fooled. You’re not in competition with other women. You’re in competition with everyone.”
I found Bossypants extremely valuable for the way that Tina addressed serious social issues through storytelling. Rather than sharing statistics about gender equality, she used her life experiences to address the challenges that women face on a daily basis when it comes to being in a competitive career with men. I particularly loved her perspective on body image and how women are constantly told to use what limited minutes they have in the day to look/act/be perfect. In the spirit of dealing head on with societal pressures, I’m going to ‘fess up and admit that I actually Photoshopped my own Linked In profile picture (embarrassing, but true). Thanks to Tina, now I’m questioning why I felt the need to do that in the first place.
“You can’t be that kid standing at the top of the waterslide, overthinking it. You have to go down the chute.”
This quote is perfect: visual, meaningful, and also pretty relevant to anyone who spent summers at a water park. It brings me back to my one word resolution: do. I can’t be waiting my turn on the slide any longer. This goes for my personal life (DIY projects, blogging, health/fitness goals) and professional life (finding the next step in my career, developing supervisory skills, spearheading programs). I’m going to go down the chute. Something embarrassing could happen on the way down, I could get a few elbow burns, and the chute might take me down some dark and scary tunnels. But if Tina can go down the slide, so can I.
That’s what Tina Fey taught me.